By David L. Duff of Duff & Kronfeld, P.C. posted in Family Law on Wednesday, November 30, 2016.
There is nothing like a divorce to make normally rational people act irrationally; to make the peaceful person become combative; and, to make the sensible individual tend to lose all touch with reality. It is truly amazing to watch two people, who earlier in their lives had been deeply in love with each other, go out of their way to intentionally inflict humiliation, anguish and emotional pain on each other. All of this is done, seemingly, without concern over the fact that they are depleting their wealth accumulated over years of marriage, over a fight that is most often completely unnecessary, and easily avoided.
Far too often, parties involved in a hotly-contested divorce, view the concept of settlement as a sign of weakness. To them, the whole idea of compromise and agreement, are matters to be avoided, instead of embraced. In reality, however, settling a divorce case should be viewed as a way to control one’s own future, at least insofar as the divorce is concerned. It should be seen as a way to come out of a divorce with some measure of civility between spouses still in place; with as little emotional turmoil on children as possible; and, without spending tens of thousands of dollars on attorneys’ fees.
Of course, it takes two people to reach a settlement – one spouse alone cannot settle anything, if the other spouse is intent on fighting. However, it can never hurt to raise the issue, and propose a semi-amicable resolution of the divorce case through an agreed settlement. You might actually get lucky, and bring what could have been a long and costly battle, to a peaceful, and immediate, conclusion.
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